Was looking at buying a gravel bike a few years back as it seemed to be the cool thing to do. I opted for converting my old Gary Fisher hardtail to a drop bar and converted from 3x to 2x as I only had a spare pair of 105 shifters... they were cable too so had to down grade to cable pull disks. ( one lucky win was that the pull ratio for 105 10 speed is exactly the same as 9 sp deore so could go up to a 10 speed cassette and didnt need a new rear mech) Anyway, it's only on 26.5's so proper old school. Struggles a bit on tarmac, so sit in the draft, but like a lot of places here in the UK the gravel quickly becomes quite narely and a lot of technical single track. Suffice to say for a couple of hundred spent, it leaves very expensive bits of kit in it's wake. Not so surprisingly many riders are now investing in front gravel shocks here. If not racing, and just enjoying gravel riding, I would definitely go for a more relaxed setup with a shock, it just gives way more scope. As you say though, it boils down to horses for courses.